How soon is now?

Posted in church on April 25, 2008 by chedlee

I have been preoccupied lately with a lot of other stuff and consequently I have done very little (no) blogging here and almost as little thinking and planning for InaSpace. Well I am pleased to say that I am addressing both those inadequacies today.

With moving churches being at the forefront of everyone’s minds at the moment we have spent a lot of time looking back at our time in the old place and looking forward to our time in the new. I want to spend a morning this week looking at the ‘now’. Is it possible to live in the now or do we constantly look back and forward, plan and review and consequently miss out on the full enjoyment of what we are doing right now?

I will let you know…..

C’mon, C’mon, arry up arry cam on

Posted in church with tags , on April 25, 2008 by chedlee

Sham 69, never my favourite group especially when they did the dire ‘if the kids are united’. Of course the next line to the one in the title is: ‘we’re goin’ darn the pab’ (trans. ‘we are going to the pub’).

I heard on the radio yesterday that pubs are suffering. They have been hit with the triple whammy of rising costs (minimum wage and energy), budget increases on beer and wine and the smoking in the workplace ban. And they are reeling, even the big boys are feeling the pinch.

I am quite a fan of pubs, I don’t go to them enough. Right from the tender age of 15 or whenever I snuck my firat half of bitter in the Flying Dutchman on Hillgate through to taking Katy to the Church Inn in Cheadle Hulme for her 18th birthday ‘first legal pint’ (Robbies - she nearly finished it), I have been a regular and most willing attender of these fine hostelries, the length and breadth of England.

I think more people should support the pub. I think they should let under-age drinkers try to sneak a few pints under reporoachful but indulgent eye of the landlord who, with the help of years of pub etiquette, will keep them in good order until they have had enough and are sent home. How much better for everyone than having them get totally wasted on strong, cheap cider in the park before venting there juvenile frustrations (or trying to keep warm…) by beating up an innocent passer-by?

Perhaps the churches are missing a trick here as well. Their buildings are falling down so why not just decamp to their nearest pub? There’ll be no shortage of lost souls to save, if that is their bag, it will be warm and friendly and attenders can have a drink at the same time. It would provide a boost for the flagging boozers and some booze for the flagging congregations.

So forget cafe church, we are not French and a cafe is where you get a fry up not a hymn sandwich.

Walk out of ‘God’s House’ and into ‘God’s Public House’, it’s the future and you heard it here first.

Baby I love you

Posted in church with tags , on April 25, 2008 by chedlee

I watched the Simpsons the other night. It was an episode where Ned Flanders meets a ‘Christian Rock Singer’ he used to have a thing for.

Ned : “Where’s your backing band?”

Girl : “They left the Christian music scene and went mainstream - you just use the word ‘baby’ instead of Jesus”

Perfect.

Your own personal Jesus

Posted in life with tags , , on March 14, 2008 by chedlee

We finished our lent discussion group last night. This has been an interesting 5 weeks. We joined in with the Alglicans at St Marks. All very nice people and along the way we had some quite interesting sessions. The course was on relationships. Last night we focussed on our relationship with God.

The night opened with a simple question : Do you have a personal relationship with God?

I couldn’t answer.

Obviously (to me) it is impossible to literally have a personal relationship with God, because God isn’t a person. And yet everyone else there could relatively easily decribe this personal relationship they had. Perhaps they meant they had a personal relationship with Jesus and being good trinitarians this meant a relationship with God. Again though I struggle with the notion of a personal relationship with Jesus who, although admittedly was human, is now dead. I have never been part of the ‘Jesus is my boyfriend’ fraternity, pledging their love, their life and everything to the ‘Lord of the dance’.

And so today I have been wrestling with the question. My conclusion is that my ‘personal’ relationship with God is manifest in my personal relationships with the persons I meet. If I treat every encounter with another human being like it is an encounter with God then surely that is a very desirable state of affairs. I might shout at God ocassionally but I would be mad to pick a fight. I might express my love for God but I am unlikely to pledge my troth. Above all else I would hold the time I spent with that person as sacred, I would make the most of every encounter.

Still a thought in progress, be insterested to hear what other people thought of it.

A working class hero is something to be

Posted in life with tags on March 3, 2008 by chedlee

 So Prince Harry just wants to be a normal boy, one of the lads, your everyday salt of the earth squaddie does he?

Well he can’t because he’s a bloody prince… no, actually, hang on a minute…

he’s white

he’s from a broken home

live’s in a council house (well sort of :-)

granddad is a bit of rascist (allegedly)

flirted with fascism (well wore a nazi uniform to a party)

likes to get lagered up with the lads on a weekend (well it’s probably champagne but you know what I mean)

On second thoughs he sounds perfect cannon fodder, he has more in common with the rest of the regiment than we first suspected!

Dog Man Star

Posted in life with tags , , , , , on February 28, 2008 by chedlee

I refer, of course, to the inimitable Cesar Millan. For those of you uninitiated this is the Dog Whisperer. The Dog Whisperer is on Sky3 at 6 most evenings and, for a dog owner, compulsive viewing. If you hear someone give their dog a little ’sshhtt’ correction as they are out walking them then, chances are, the owner is a fan of Cesar’s.

Cesar’s basic premise is that a dogs behaviour is based around the energy it gives and receives from the pack leader. Thus if the pack leader exudes the correct calm assertive energy the dog should respond with calm submissive energy. In this way you end up with a balanced dog. The way to achieve this is to give your dog 3 things; exercise, discipline and affection, in that order.

Of course the owner has to be the pack leader for this balanced state to be maintained and this is generally where he has to do most of his work. People don’t do the right thing by their dog and the animal gets confused by the lack of leadership and isn’t sure whether to step into the breach or not. You have to watch the programme really.

The thing that I like about it is this idea that you can communicate with other beings on the planet by the energy you exude. Do you remember when you were at school and there was always a teacher or two who could walk into a room and everything would stop. We may have called it respect but ultimately these people are able to alter the mood of a group of kids just by their ‘demeanour’ or their ‘prescence’ . In the same way some teachers, no matter what censure they threatened, could do nothing to control a class of relatively well behaved but boistrous teenagers.

The thing is anyone can do it, they just don’t know they can and this is what the Dog Whisperer instills in people. He enables them to become the pack leader. As a result their behaviour with their pets changes but, more importantly, their attitude and their demeanour towards it changes.

Is this something we can learn to do with people? I think we probably do it already. Generally if you were in a situation where you felt yourself to be submissive, you would submit and if you felt dominant you would dominate and take control. Problems occur where this natural balance is upset. Sometimes people feel that their alpha-male position is one they must preserve at all times when, in a lot of situations, a bit of humility would go a very long way.

So what distorts this balance? Advertising is a big one, alcohol and drugs almost go without saying but I think that the further we move from God the more distorted a view we get of ourselves and our importance in the scheme of things. Don’t get me wrong, we are all as important as each other just not all the time and sometimes we need someone or something much bigger than us to remind us who the real pack leader is.

what’s goin’ on

Posted in church with tags , on February 26, 2008 by chedlee

On Sunday someone from theological school attended our conventional worship space. This person was there to assess a bloke from our church who is training for the ministry. I spoke to her afterwards about how he’d done and she was quite dismissive in an ‘oh it was fine way’. She then went on to say how it was InaSpace that she really wanted to know about. I duly described what we had been up to and what we had planned. I also told her a bit about how we had come to be there doing that thing. She was interested. I have previously spoken to the head of that particular theological school and he was interested too in what we were doing. The thing is, where is the evidence that their interest in activities such as ours is finding its way onto the curriculum for the school? Why are we still churning (I appreciate that the numbers hardly constitute a churn but you get my drift) out ‘old-school’ ministers?

Our new minister and the minister at the church we are moving into and a couple of people who are interested in worship got together to come up with a plan for how we might worship together when we merge later in the year. They have basically come up with InaSpace.

This is gratifying on many levels. It is great that what we are doing is striking a chord with people. But the people I have mentioned here are either full time ministers or full time trainers of ministers. This might beg the question; what do we have a) theological training colleges and b) full time ministers for? I am no theologian (my wife is but that is another story) I just want to be able to explore my faith in a meaningful way. In that I cannot be unique. So what is everyone else doing to satisfy their need in this area if, as I expect, their minister ( if they are ‘lucky’ enough to have one) is toeing the line carrying out a traditional worship service every week?